Wednesday, April 07, 2010

My heart is sad

I found out last night that a very good friend of mine that I've known since high school died. Some of you out in bloggerland may remember some close friends of mine, Shane and Timbra, and it's Shane's younger sister. I've been good friends with their whole family since '93 and this is the first time someone (other than family) has passed away that I was so close to and who was young and not sick.

I'm so sad for the family and for what they're going through. She had been missing for 6 weeks before her body was found. Six weeks of not knowing where their sister, daughter, wife, mother had been. I can't imagine going through that. I don't like to "dwell" on the bad stuff in life, and I usually try to see the best side of things when something bad happens, that I can't understand. But a lot of the time it's easier because it's happening to someone else, not impacting me directly. But in this case I feel a personal loss over this because she was such a good friend. I saw her last April when my sister threw me a bridal shower in Boise, and before that it had been some time since I had seen her. But I always felt close to the whole family and if I saw one of them I always wanted to know how she was doing and how they all were doing. So to have her gone is so sad to me. And I hurt over how much they are hurting.

When my mom's mom passed away a couple years ago I was really sad. But I was mostly sad for my mom, because she had lost her mom. And that's how I feel now. I'm so so sad that she is gone but feel so much sadder for her family because they don't have her anymore. She has 3 young kids and a stepson, and her husband is now a single dad. Luckily her siblings and parents are all within a close proximity so hopefully that will make it easier for him raising their children. I hope they will always remember what a great woman their mom was.

She would have been 30 today.
Heather I will miss you and will treasure our friendship.